This is one more piece of advice I have for you: don’t get impatient. Even if things are so tangled up you can’t do anything, don’t get desperate or blow a fuse and start yanking on one particular thread before it’s ready to come undone. You have to realize it’s going to be a
long process and that you’ll work on things slowly, one at a time.
Codependency isn’t sexy. It isn’t romantic. It’s built with a fuse and will surely burn out. The healthiest thing you can say to the one you love is, “I would be okay without you, and that’s why I choose to stay.”
Si me quieres, quiéreme entera,
no por zonas de luz o sombra…
Si me quieres, quiéreme negra
y blanca. Y gris, y verde, y rubia,
¡Y madrugada en la ventana abierta!
Si me quieres, no me recortes:
¡Quiéreme toda… O no me quieras!
Si me quieres, quiéreme enterapor la poetisa cubana Dulce María Loynaz.
If you love me, love me whole not by zones of light or shadow… if you love me, love me black and white, and gray and green and blond, and mixed… love me day, love me night… and in the morning with the open window! If you love me, don’t break me in pieces: love me whole…Or do not love me at all!
If you love me, love me whole by Cuban poet Dulce María Loynaz.